Road to Self-Discovery

 

Road to Self-Discovery

 

Sometimes we do not realize what we have until it is too late.  Taking people for granted and not showing them appreciation and gratitude can make us suffer the consequences. We are so set in our daily routines; in the hustle and bustle of our affairs that we seem not to notice the small things that surround us. Nevertheless, lest not forget that the simple things are truly the most important in our lives; the people who love and care for us.

A simple “Thank you” can go a long way. Remember you are never too busy to say, “Hey Honey, I just wanted to thank you for this….” or pick up something at the nearest .99 store to show your appreciation, “Hey I picked this little trinket up to show you my appreciation.”  These tokens or gestures do make a difference to anyone especially to friends and family. It makes them feel that even though you both have hectic schedules, a simple “thank you” and an act of kindness can contribute to a less stressful day.

If you forget to show some gratitude, it can build walls between all parties involved and cause conflicts. It can cause misery in the home and a lot of tension. As time goes by, the people involved will not want to help you out with any favors, errands or any household tasks. They will definitely feel underappreciated and will not want to speak to you directly. There will be murmurs, (speaking under their breath) and/ or will have battles (scream at you to leave them alone).  The household will become chaotic and some involved will have some type of depressive issues because they will hold their feelings, unless they are like me! I speak my mind! I cannot keep anything inside if not I will implode!

If there are any frustrated members with factors such as mental illness and it builds up, then we definitely, have a problem. They have no control over their personality issues.  They are in constant need of approval and gratification. Therefore, that is like having a loaded gun and is detrimental to them. So always watch out for the people around you, say thank you and be courteous you never know who is in your court!  

*******( Please, If there are any people in your household with emotional issues please seek professional help)******

 

How to begin: Rebuilding your life from within

How to begin:

Rebuilding your life from within

1.      Love yourself, unconditionally.

2.      Release your bottled up emotions. 

3.      Make time for long walks, alone.

4.      Avoid living beyond your means. 

5.      Nurture your inner strength.

6.      Stop apologizing for being you.

  

7.      Surround yourself with positive people.

{Today’s Reflection}

             Embrace your situation, whatever it may be.

Take Time to Heal ~ Stay Centered ~ Be Free ~

You may feel many emotions sadness, anger, confusion, betrayal, and at times, you may even question your own decisions when problems develop in our lives.

We have to stand up and make choices, even though they can take a toll on our lives~ this is definitely a part of the healing process. The steps below are emotions that we feel and why we feel them but we cannot let them take control. Let’s move forward!

1. Sadness: you may feel that you did not deserve this     

situation.

2. Anger:  how the circumstances derived.

3. Confusion:  you may feel like you may or may not be 

able to handle the pressure.

4. Betrayal: because of the person(s) involved in the 

situation, or caused the conflict.

5. Questionable: because you wonder if you used good 

judgment after deciding uponmaking a conclusion.

When conflicts threaten your peace of mind, remember that you have the choice-

 “It’s your Choice” to stay centered and focused.

   Say to yourself-  I do not need drama in my life nor negative thinking!

{Today’s Reflection} 

I stay centered in peaceful love. I am willing to love and accept others for who they are.

 It’s my Choice to be Free! 

Flaws and Imperfection

Stop looking for flaws within yourself, because you are perfect just the way you are!

You shouldn’t look for more greatness, better health or a better relationship, everything about you is completely ideal.

 The imperfections and faults are products you create from your imagination.

Free Yourself !

Choose Peace

     Find a place inside you where you can retreat from all your anxieties, fears, chaos and worries. You can achieve a moment of peace by closing your eyes and taking a moment to breathe deeply.

        It’s really simple; you can go outside or just find a spot in your own home to relax, sit with your eyes closed for a moment or two and take in the perfect stillness of time.

        Believe me it can really help, especially if you have been through some tough times in your life. Breathe in deeply and fill yourself with tranquility, calmness and the real simplicity of peace, go ahead indulge!

{Today’s Reflection}

Breathe deeply throughout the day, be at peace with yourself and rest your mind in perfect stillness.

Getting Started Again!

   

                                                                   

            Sometimes it takes a lot for us to get started again, after turmoil and injustice. Believe me I have been down that bumpy road far too many times. Being a single mom is not easy, and for some, they can't cut it.  But for me, being a mom has been a total blessing in disguise. 

          I started this blog a year ago but for personal reasons did not continue- but I am here now to start this journey and see where it leads me. I have fallen, been burnt and now I stand and rise, I have been beaten, and bruised but I have come back to stand my ground, I told a very good friend (Meli) just the other day, that we women who have been hurt and deserted, are what I call : " Burnt but not Broken."

        That means we are strong individuals! We do not let the men that were in our lives get the best of us because:

   We as Women; Latina, White, Black, Wiccan, Jew, Christian or Gentile, all have Power! and that power is within us to conquer everything and all things that come our way. We may feel stuck at first, hurt, and cry a little, but toss the feelings aside and get up again! Get Started Again!, not only for yourself or your self worth but for your child(ren) because they need their MOM.
             Now you will be both Mommy and Daddy! 


                                                

Welcome to My Place of Peace!

Life is made up of special moments which make it worth living. There are many cherished moments that are missed due to the stress and fast pace of daily living. We must slow down and remember how precious it is to be alive and to love!!!!

Tips On Being a Single Mom

10 Basic Rules For Single Mothers

Never make him the man of the house. Connect your son with opportunities to meet responsible men. Create an environment for open communication. Get to know your son's friends. Teach your son how to love others and appreciate life. Encourage learning early. Decrease television viewing. Find time to relax (being a single parent can be tough). Develop an on-going relationship with your son's teachers. Begin the discussion about sex before sexual maturation begins.

Quick Tips for Reconnecting Fathers

Father's may be absent for a number of reasons. These reasons may or may not be legitimate in your eyes. However, it is important that fathers are allowed to be engaged in their son's lives. Realize that it is critical for your son to have a relationship with his father (barring any previous issues of violence or unhealthy contact). Mom may need to initiate reconnecting & redefining the bond between the absent father and her son (the male ego may not permit many fathers to extend the olive branch). Mothers need to deal with their own issues related to improving the relationship between the father and son. If possible, have a one-on-one meeting with your son's father to discuss the parameters of the relationship. Start slowly. This can be emotional. Possibly begin with allowing your son to develop a telephone relationship with his father. Create some one-on-one father and son opportunities. Create an environment for open communication between your son and his father. Create opportunities for the three of you to openly talk about the relationship.

Quick Tips for Single Mothers Raising Boys

Teach your son how to love others and appreciate life. Encourage learning early. Decrease television viewing. Find time to relax (being a single parent can be tough).